Author Archives: Alison Patton

Back From Sabbatical

Hello readers, I am back from my blogging sabbatical. I appreciated and enjoyed the emails from some of you during my absence (particularly one concerned email asking if I’d died. That one gave me a chuckle!). Nope, I’m still around, with no good excuse for dropping out of sight other than having an extremely busy […]

My Midlife Crisis — If Only I Had Time for It

(Originally published on Huffington Post Divorce.) I just realized the other day that I’m at the age where I should be having my midlife crisis. In fact, when I think back, my parents went through theirs right about this same time of life. They separated in their mid-forties and my dad moved out. He bought […]

Some Thoughts on Grief (and a poem that brought me back to life)

Healing from divorce is a long process.  Everyone eventually recovers and finds happiness, but the first year or two is more about grief than new life.  I wish it could be different, but that’s just the way it is for most people. Personally I’ve experienced grief twice in my life, and both times it felt […]

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned #2 (My advice is still: try mediation first)

The Mouse In My House

We have four cats—all hunters who, despite the bell we affix to their collars, regularly bring us catches from the canyon:  mice, rats, birds, lizards, even an occasional baby rabbit and King snake.  As early as six-years old, my kids became adept at either rescuing a still-live animal from the cat’s mouth (which they’d release […]

Happy Thanksgiving, and as we officially launch the holiday season . . .

I am reminded of a quote by Matt Groening (creator of The Simpsons): “Families are about love overcoming emotional torture.” (And this applies whether you’re married, separated, divorced or single.) Good luck and hang in there!

“Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.” (My advice: try mediation first)


Feed the Love, Starve the Anger

(photo by Anant N S) You never know where you’re going to get the next piece of wisdom. Yesterday my son and I were at Trader Joe’s grocery store, enjoying a quick morning chat with a store employee named Wendy who runs the sample station. Wendy is one of those persons who knows how to […]