Inspiration for the New Year

Five minutes of great stuff.
The part about not letting fear and emotions derail you —- listen to this.

Sucking It Up For The Kids

One of the nicest things my parents did after their divorce was to spend Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner together as a family, not just one year but several. At the time, I didn’t realize how unusual this was, nor did I have any understanding of how difficult this must have been for each of my parents. In retrospect, we were a strange group after a few years: my dad with his serious girlfriend in tow; my mom with her new husband; my sisters with their boyfriends (who eventually became their husbands); my brother and I usually stag, although some years we Read More »

Goodbyes

This poem is dedicated to divorced dads and moms everywhere who say goodbye to their children every week.

Goodbyes
Two houses, two years
4 x 24 goodbyes
You would think it’s be easier
after so much practice.
The heart must mend fast
because each time
it breaks anew.

– Alison Patton

January 2015
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Wall of Wisdom

Words I stumbled upon today:

With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams.
It is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful
Strive to be happy.

-Max Ehrmann

Hard to remember this during divorce, but tuck it away. One day you will feel this way again.

Insightful Article About Mediation

mediation linkDivorce coach, Laura Miolla, wrote an article about mediation that’s well worth reading to get a better understanding of why and how mediation works. Check it out by clicking here.
(A tip: if you type in your name and email address when you’re on Laura’s website, MoxieLife, you get to download her “Divorce Survival Guide” for free.)

More Mediocre Poetry

In January, I went on a retreat in Monterey to hear poet and philosopher David Whyte. Ever since, I’ve found myself jotting down poems. The difference between my poetry and David Whyte’s poetry can be summed up in five words: his is excellent, mine mediocre. However, that hasn’t slowed me down, to the dismay of my husband who is forced to be my sounding board.
—- This poem is about a wife–usually a stay-home mother– who felt she lost herself during her marriage. Through the years I’ve heard this story pour out during a mediation, usually with great sadness and tears.
 

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Wall of Wisdom

happy face“I learned the hard way that I cannot always
count on others to respect my feelings, even
if I respect theirs. Being a good person
doesn’t guarantee that others will be good
people. You only have control over yourself
and how you choose to be as a person. As for
others, you can only choose to accept them
or walk away.” —Author unknown

How Do I Know Whether Mediation Is Right for Me?

This is a common question I get, so a few years ago I put together an article on this topic and it originally ran on Huffington Post.  I’ve updated the information a bit.  Click here to find that article, entitled “How to Decide Whether to Mediate.”  Also on this same page are other free articles and information which I hope you will find helpful as you navigate your way through divorce.

For more of my articles on divorce, go to my Huffington Post page by clicking here.

For divorce consultation or more information about my services, I can be reached at alison@lemonadedivorce.com.