How Do I Know Whether Mediation Is Right for Me?

This is a common question I get, so a few years ago I put together an article on this topic and it originally ran on Huffington Post.  I’ve updated the information a bit.  Click here to find that article, entitled “How to Decide Whether to Mediate.”  Also on this same page are other free articles and information which I hope you will find helpful as you navigate your way through divorce.

For more of my articles on divorce, go to my Huffington Post page by clicking here.

For divorce consultation or more information about my services, I can be reached at

Successfully Navigating the Legal Process of Divorce

Miolla-player-wide Today I have the pleasure of being a guest on Divorce Sucks: A Smart Girl’s Guide to Doing  it Better, hosted on VoiceAmerica by Laura Miolla (Divorce Coach, creator of  The program airs live today at 10 a.m. California time, 1 p.m. Eastern time.   It’s available on demand at any time after that.  Click here to go to the podcast replay.

New Online Magazine for Single Parents

Solo Parent Magazine  launched this month.  Check it out at  Articles on divorce, parenting, health, money — all geared for single parents. The lineup includes some well-known bloggers. There’s a community chat forum too.  They’re featuring one of my posts, which is how I met the co-founder.

(By the way, I have no financial interest or personal connection to Solo.  I just like what they’re doing.)


A Poem for My Father

I didn’t think he cared.
Twice weekly visits
seemed enough for him,
A dinner, a chat, an update
on life and school.
No more, no less.
Neither shallow nor deep.
A hug goodbye, a wave,
the door would shut, we would drive away
and our life would go on.

It wasn’t until years later
in rage, as we crossed
swords and words
that the truth came out.
He’d been lonely, he’d been sad.
Saying goodbye
broke his heart every time.

He hid it behind the man
he’d been raised to be.
A man who holds it inside
and shows no pain.
A man, a family man,
who woke up,
went to work,
wrote the checks
paid the bills
cleaned his kitchen
took out the trash
locked the doors
turned off Read More »

The Cat in My House

Cinder with his best friend Daisy

Cinder (with his buddy Daisy)

Chester  February 2015

February 2015

Five months ago, our orange and white tabby was hit by a car and killed. Cinder was his name and he was a bit of a local celebrity. The second half of his life he took to roaming the neighborhoods and hanging out at our local high school. He became a fixture there and somehow convinced the teachers and staff to allow him free run of the campus. Most days you could find him sleeping in the classrooms or media lab, on the patio sunning himself, or hanging Read More »

Are You Ultra Spiritual?

I think I’ve used some of these phrases he mentions. I guess I must be “ultra spiritual!”

(One of the funniest YouTube videos I’ve seen.  Sit back and have a good laugh!)


Sometimes (excerpt), by David Whyte


…you come to a place whose only task
is to trouble you
with tiny but frightening requests
conceived out of nowhere
but in this place
beginning to lead everywhere.
Requests to stop what
you are doing right now,
to stop what you
are becoming
while you do it,
that can make
or unmake
a life,
that have patiently
waited for you,
that have no right
to go away.

-David Whyte

Back From Sabbatical

Hello readers,

I am back from my blogging sabbatical. I appreciated and enjoyed the emails from some of you during my absence (particularly one concerned email asking if I’d died. That one gave me a chuckle!). Nope, I’m still around, with no good excuse for dropping out of sight other than having an extremely busy year running my mediation and law practice while trying to stay present for my kids, husband and myself. I didn’t plan to take a sabbatical, it kind of just naturally developed into one as months passed and I had no inspiration to write.

I realize in retrospect that Read More »