Goodbyes

This poem is dedicated to divorced dads and moms everywhere who say goodbye to their children every week.

Goodbyes
Two houses, two years
4 x 24 goodbyes
You would think it’s be easier
after so much practice.
The heart must mend fast
because each time
it breaks anew.

– Alison Patton

January 2015
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Wall of Wisdom

Words I stumbled upon today:

With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams.
It is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful
Strive to be happy.

-Max Ehrmann

Hard to remember this during divorce, but tuck it away. One day you will feel this way again.

Insightful Article About Mediation

mediation linkDivorce coach, Laura Miolla, wrote an article about mediation that’s well worth reading to get a better understanding of why and how mediation works. Check it out by clicking here.
(A tip: if you type in your name and email address when you’re on Laura’s website, MoxieLife, you get to download her “Divorce Survival Guide” for free.)

More Mediocre Poetry

In January, I went on a retreat in Monterey to hear poet and philosopher David Whyte. Ever since, I’ve found myself jotting down poems. The difference between my poetry and David Whyte’s poetry can be summed up in five words: his is excellent, mine mediocre. However, that hasn’t slowed me down, to the dismay of my husband who is forced to be my sounding board.
—- This poem is about a wife–usually a stay-home mother– who felt she lost herself during her marriage. Through the years I’ve heard this story pour out during a mediation, usually with great sadness and tears.
 

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Wall of Wisdom

happy face“I learned the hard way that I cannot always
count on others to respect my feelings, even
if I respect theirs. Being a good person
doesn’t guarantee that others will be good
people. You only have control over yourself
and how you choose to be as a person. As for
others, you can only choose to accept them
or walk away.” —Author unknown

How Do I Know Whether Mediation Is Right for Me?

This is a common question I get, so a few years ago I put together an article on this topic and it originally ran on Huffington Post.  I’ve updated the information a bit.  Click here to find that article, entitled “How to Decide Whether to Mediate.”  Also on this same page are other free articles and information which I hope you will find helpful as you navigate your way through divorce.

For more of my articles on divorce, go to my Huffington Post page by clicking here.

For divorce consultation or more information about my services, I can be reached at alison@lemonadedivorce.com.

Successfully Navigating the Legal Process of Divorce

Miolla-player-wide Today I have the pleasure of being a guest on Divorce Sucks: A Smart Girl’s Guide to Doing  it Better, hosted on VoiceAmerica by Laura Miolla (Divorce Coach, creator of MoxieLife.com).  The program airs live today at 10 a.m. California time, 1 p.m. Eastern time.   It’s available on demand at any time after that.  Click here to go to the podcast replay.

New Online Magazine for Single Parents

Solo Parent Magazine  launched this month.  Check it out at http://soloparentmag.com/.  Articles on divorce, parenting, health, money — all geared for single parents. The lineup includes some well-known bloggers. There’s a community chat forum too.  They’re featuring one of my posts, which is how I met the co-founder.

(By the way, I have no financial interest or personal connection to Solo.  I just like what they’re doing.)

-Alison