Welcome to my blog – The Story of the Divorce Doc
Probably the best way to start this blog is to go back to the beginning….
During the time I was creating the Divorce Doc concept, I sat down with a best friend to hash over my vision. I explained to her what I was putting together, what my goals were. I told her how I wanted to make a difference in the lives of people going through divorce, how I wanted to share with others what I’ve learned as an attorney in the divorce business. When I finally finished talking, she was quiet for a moment, then said, “I get it. You want to be the Marianne Williamson or the Deepak Chopra of divorce.”
My first reaction was to laugh, because I am just a regular person, not famous or rich, not brilliantly spiritual or exceptionally enlightened. But then as I thought about it a little more, I realized my friend nailed it on the head. Yes, if I had to choose one sentence to sum up my mission, her sentence does the trick. My mission is to bring some inspiration, hope and insightful discussion to people going through one of life’s most difficult and painful transitions. I also want to provide education, concrete advice and practical tools to help people get through their divorce constructively. All these things are essential, not just one without the other.
How I came to this juncture in life is this: I am a divorce lawyer and mediator by profession, I’m married and have children, I am the child of divorced parents. Personally and professionally, I’ve witnessed the pain and trauma families go through. And I – like many others -think our legal system is too expensive, takes way too long, and is overly complicated.
I believe divorce is a holistic process that must be addressed from all angles– legal, emotional, logistical and spiritual—because divorce brings up and challenges all these parts of us. (I do not belong to any particular religious group and I use the word “spiritual” in a non-denominational sense—sort of like AA and other twelve-step programs do).
So it is with this goal in mind that I created my mission as the Divorce Doc. Through my Divorce Doc workshops, private work with clients, and this blog, I hope to provide a valuable resource for anyone going through divorce. Hopefully, with many like-minded people working for this common goal, we can make the path of divorce a little bit easier. I am officially signing on to do my part.